The issue of trust???

In our society today there is one issue that is thought of in so many situations and that is the big issue of trust.

Lets define trust…

verb (used with object)

to have trust or confidence in; rely or depend on.

to believe.

to expect confidently; hope (usually followed by a clause or infinitive as object): trusting the job would soon be finished; trusting to find oil on the land.

to commit or consign with trust or confidence.

to permit to remain or go somewhere or to do something without fear of consequences: He does not trust his children out of his sight.

How do we learn to trust? Is it through good parenting or lack of, at school, with peers, a partner…or maybe it is inbuilt from first creation. Are some people more trusting and trust worthy than others right from the start or do life experiences form our sense of trust as we plough through our childhood into adult hood where everything seems to become more complicated when thinking about ‘trust’.

Everybody needs to trust someone. But choosing who to trust is the strangest of choices to make. Here’s why…

At primary school you tell your best friend a big secret and within an hour her friend knows too…at senior school you fancy this lad who you get on really well with and you pass him a note and within half an hour his mate knows too…a little later in life you meet this man, seems real nice, but within a month he’s already broken your heart. These instances are just examples of how you think u can trust but then you feel a fool for doing so. Which asks the question;

“Do you need to know someone really well before you trust them or can you do so from the first meeting?”

I can hear you now loud and clear…so if we feel that trust needs to be built on why on earth do we completely put our faith and trust in absolute strangers almost everyday of our lives…think about this one…

How well did you know the nursery nurse where you child goes each day?

How long have you known your child’s teacher?

Who is the lady who runs the local brownies?

The dance teacher…what’s her name again?

An In-depth Study of Work- related Road Traffic Accidents states: Taxi drivers were the only group that showed over-involvement in accidents caused by deliberate recklessness or failure to correctly judge gaps in traffic before making a manoeuvre.

I am not saying all taxis are bad as I use them frequently but what i am saying is that we trust the driver to get us from A to B safely but we don’t know anything about him or her!

As adults it takes us a while to trust a partner or a friend yet we put trust in people we don’t know…it’s almost like the people we have known for a long time take longer to trust yet the one’s we should take our time to trust we hand over our children or jump in their car!

Obviously there are circumstances in every scenario but if we just see people without their profession to give them automatic ‘trust’ stats and we met them in a different environment…would we feel them same way?

So again I ask the question…

“Do you need to know someone really well before you trust them or can you do so from the first meeting?”

Just a thought 🙂


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